When I was 9 my father was arrested in our home on my birthday during my party. He had assaulted a police officer during a bar fight/dispute. Even though he had a drinking problem, he was a great Dad. My Mom stayed supportive for a little while, but then we stopped visiting him and he stopped sending letters. I have tried to move on, but I'm still pretty messed up by it. Don't really feel like I can talk to that many people about it. I mostly just say that I never knew my father and he left before I was born.